How To Really, Truly, Finally Get Over Your Ex —​ FOR GOOD

If you want to bring new long lasting love into your life you have to make room for it. This means letting go of the relationship that you know is not working. If you're fanning a dying flame by playing that special music, ogling online, and revisiting the fantasy just because it's better than nothing, you are robbing yourself of a new and exciting opportunity. Every time you go back to the past before your breakup, you sprinkle that "gotta [...]

Are You Sexually Incompatible or Sexually Uninformed?

Sexual incompatibility is one of the most commonly cited reasons for relationship break-ups. The sad part is, many of these couples aren’t as sexually incompatible as they are sexually uniformed. Because we all appear to have the same sexual style in the highly erotic infatuation stage of a relationship, it’s easy to believe it will always be this way. Not so. When it comes to sex, what you don’t know about sex can hurt you. Don’t [...]

What’s Your Sexual Style?

It’s easy to fall into a trap of believing that the desire for sex and intimacy always works the same for everyone. As a featured expert on Your Tango, Dr. Pat Love discusses why it’s so important to understand your own sexual style as well as your partner’s. The problem is we all have different sexual needs and styles. Knowing yours —and your partner's —can change your sex life and your relationship. Visit Your Tango to read [...]


There’s no app for this: Babies need touch for survival. All that holding, snuggling, and patting is necessary for life itself. Not only infants need physical affection; adults need it too. Unlike babies we can survive without touching, but none of us truly can thrive without touching. You might be surprised by how many people are starved for physical contact right now. Are you? When was the last time you experienced a meaningful hug? Or your [...]

Not Picture Perfect

For many reasons we’ve decided to use our own photos on our website, online courses, and throughout our work. Because we’re not professional photographers, you’ll notice without doubt our pictures aren’t perfect—but neither are we. Our lives aren’t perfect, our relationships aren’t perfect (like the baby marmots in the picture who seem to be arguing!), and much of our work is driven by our own mistakes and pain. The pictures we select to share with you, [...]

Respecting Boundaries

Healthy relationships begin with safe and appropriate boundaries based on roles and established expectations. Like dividing lines on a two-way road, relationship boundaries help us build trust by defining limits and establishing norms that benefit all involved. We feel safe driving because dividing lines keep each driver on the right side of the road, out of harm’s way, and free to reach desired destinations. The expected roles we establish between two people serve the same function. [...]

Crossing the Bridge

The magic of true intimacy is the reward for having the courage to accept and love your partner as a separate person. Acknowledging the otherness of the other is a prerequisite for connection. Anything short of this will not bring the joy we all long for. So how do you begin to enter your partner's world when that world is different than yours? You start by crossing the bridge of separation. The mirror neuron system in [...]

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