Information is Truly Transformational
Relationships today look very different than one short generation ago. Changes in technology, social media, gender roles, sexual diversity, financial support, and other socio-economic factors have altered our expectations and redefined what makes us happy.
Good information can go a long way in helping you improve your relationships and your life.
It’s easy to fall into a trap of believing that the desire for sex and intimacy always works the same for everyone. As a featured expert on Your Tango, Dr. Pat Love discusses why it’s so important to understand your own sexual style as well as your partner’s. The problem is we all have different sexual needs and styles. Knowing yours —and your partner's —can change your sex life and your relationship. Visit Your Tango to read the full article. As differences emerge and sex becomes less satisfying we have to understand and adapt to those [...]
If you want to bring new long lasting love into your life you have to make room for it. This means letting go of the relationship that you know is not working. If you're fanning a dying flame by playing that special music, ogling online, and revisiting the fantasy just because it's better than nothing, you are robbing yourself of a new and exciting opportunity. Every time you go back to the past before your breakup, you sprinkle that "gotta have more" neurotransmitter, dopamine, on a dead-end relationship, and program yourself for loneliness. Kick the habit: axe the ex! Declare [...]
It's all about striking a balance. As a parent, you may be constantly worrying if you’re doing a good enough job of raising your children. Are you teaching them to be kind and courteous? Are you giving them morals and values that will help them as adults? Are you making sure that they’re getting the love and attention they need, in whatever aspect that might be? And are you teaching them to have a healthy amount of love for themselves and some self-esteem so that they know their worth? Dr. Love talks about [...]
“Let’s Talk About Sex,” a documentary created by James Houston in collaboration with Advocates for Youth, reveals how we manage sex education in the United States and how our attitudes about sexuality impact today’s teens. Parents, teachers, counselors, coaches, as well as individuals may find this documentary extremely helpful, important, and a true eye-opener. While the subject of sex education is vital and therefore worthy of exploring, some viewers may find the content highly controversial by confronting common beliefs about sexuality. We respect those whose sexual, religious, racial, age-appropriate, and patriotic sensibilities might be challenged. [...]
But it's not too late! There's a common mistake a lot of women are making — maybe even most women — that drives men away. If I call my female friend and say, “I’m having a terrible day,” she’ll respond with a gasp and say something like, “I’m so sorry; what’s going on? Do you want to get together?” Woman-to-woman, a complaint translates into an invitation for support. Sharing a grievance is a female call for contact; a bid for the other person to tune in, move closer. Complaining is also a compliment; it says I value you; I trust you; [...]
Healthy relationships begin with safe and appropriate boundaries based on roles and established expectations. Like dividing lines on a two-way road, relationship boundaries help us build trust by defining limits and establishing norms that benefit all involved. We feel safe driving because dividing lines keep each driver on the right side of the road, out of harm’s way, and free to reach desired destinations. The expected roles we establish between two people serve the same function. With our closest friends, we expect them to show up in good times and bad, give us their attention [...]
For many reasons we’ve decided to use our own photos on our website, online courses, and throughout our work. Because we’re not professional photographers, you’ll notice without doubt our pictures aren’t perfect—but neither are we. Our lives aren’t perfect, our relationships aren’t perfect (like the baby marmots in the picture who seem to be arguing!), and much of our work is driven by our own mistakes and pain. The pictures we select to share with you, however, represent moments of validation, truth, joy, contentment, happiness, and hope. Sometimes they are captured in the darkest periods [...]
There’s no app for this: Babies need touch for survival. All that holding, snuggling, and patting is necessary for life itself. Not only infants need physical affection; adults need it too. Unlike babies we can survive without touching, but none of us truly can thrive without touching. You might be surprised by how many people are starved for physical contact right now. Are you? When was the last time you experienced a meaningful hug? Or your face was held lovingly in someone’s hands? The need for affection never goes away—it’s as human as your next [...]
The magic of true intimacy is the reward for having the courage to accept and love your partner as a separate person. Acknowledging the otherness of the other is a prerequisite for connection. Anything short of this will not bring the joy we all long for. So how do you begin to enter your partner's world when that world is different than yours? You start by crossing the bridge of separation. The mirror neuron system in your brain makes crossing the bridge possible by enabling you to follow and understand each other's movements, behaviors, and [...]