If you want to bring new long lasting love into your life you have to make room for it. This means letting go of the relationship that you know is not working. If you’re fanning a dying flame by playing that special music, ogling online, and revisiting the fantasy just because it’s better than nothing, you are robbing yourself of a new and exciting opportunity.

Every time you go back to the past before your breakup, you sprinkle that “gotta have more” neurotransmitter, dopamine, on a dead-end relationship, and program yourself for loneliness. Kick the habit: axe the ex! Declare a moratorium on any type of contact, IRL or URL.

Don’t kid yourself about being “just friends.” Take hold of your brain and your body and STOP! Stop your thoughts every time they move in that dead-end direction. Put a red stop sign everywhere you’re apt to digress. 

See yourself with the love of your life: happy, fulfilled, passionate. Emblazon this image in your brain and replace any old vision with this new picture of bliss.

Want to know a few signs you’re moving on? Read the rest of Dr. Love’s article on YourTango.